it has been a long time since i last sat down and watched through a one hour TV drama.. i think at least for 2 months? yup..being a self-professed TV addict, there are many times when i wished i could sit down and watch through a ONE hour Tv drama but it seems that with so many "time- consuming" tasks that i have on hand make that seems like a luxury, a much desired one.
anyway, a few days ago, i happened to watch the channel 8 nine o'clock drama, is it "My Lucky Star"? anyway, one scene showed Meiya lose her footing and fall into the pool. Then she decided to let herself drown bcos she sees no pt in living when her sister has already died. At that moment, JK (her colleague), Ou Xuan (her best friend) and Paul( suitor and proclaimed lover) were present. Sensing that things were not right, JK jumped into the pool and brought Meiya up. Ou Xuan resusitated her, and when she had regained consciousness and started crying; Paul held her face and stroked her hair and told her: "dont cry, its ok.. dont cry.."
HECK. oh... so the man who professed to love that gal and promised to love and take care of her no matter what, was the one who stroked her hair after she was saved by somebody else? oh.. so.. HYPOCRITICAL!!!!!!!!!
ya, i know it's a drama.. but it reminded me of the 2 times when i almost drowned and the ones who came to save me.. so, i know it happens in REAL life as well! though i din have a guy who claimed to love me present at that time when i was drowning, the idea is the same. It makes me
REALLY think about what guys
REALLY mean when they say they
LOVE a girl. is it;
"i really love you, i will take care of you no matter what. Trust me." and then when the girl is in need, they are not the first to help. worst, they can stand by doing nothing!! and attempt to comfort the gal only when she's helped by someone else!
GUYS... If you really say that you love a girl, how could you stand by and do nothing when you see her drowning? You mean you love her but but... BUT what? That's no but! Just like there's no reason for you not to save a drowning person whom u don't know, what more the girl you claim to love?????
Ok, to be fair... the only reason that is excusable to me is that you tell me you cannot swim. Fine. but hello... unless u're not a SINGAPOREAN guy who has not been through NS, you should know how to swim!
Pls, if you do not see yourself jumping into the pool to save the girl you say you love, pls don't tell the girl you love her. Dont give promises you cannot keep. Dont profess to love if you're not sure you love her so much that you will do anything to save her.
and girls, of course i hope that we wont bump into hypocrites like that! but i have to say that, they are very difficult to spot. Like i always tell my girlfriends, a guy is always nice to the girl they like! And that makes it hard for us sometimes to know whether they truly love us, even when they profess to. However, i think that unless you are so sure that your guy wont be the next Paul, dont commit so readily to guys who say they love you. I'm not asking you to be cycnical about guys, i just want you to open your eyes. Take time to really know him first, discover him as a person, a friend, a son.
and always rem that the guy who really love you will take care of you. He should never leave you nor forsake you. He should be one who keep all his promises to you. and ideally he should be able to say, "till death doeth us part". and... it's cliche i know but find one who would say, "you jump, i jump". ALTHOUGH, Of cos, i don't want anyone of you to jump!!!!
and girls, just as we hope to find a guy like that, although we always say guys like that are EXTINCT... haha, i'm sure guys would want the girls they love to be able to reciprocate as well. Now, it's your turn to think about how much would you do for the guy you really love. actually, i'm not so worried abt the girls cos i know many will actually give up everything to be with the guy they love, not to mention save! but alas if they cant swim and see their guy drowning , i bet you they will be screaming for help.
but above all, dear guys and girls, we have to bear in mind too that none of us are perfect and we cant expect others to be perfect as well.
there will be times when people will let you down, hurt you, betray you, not keep to their promises and not do the things they say they will do.afterall, we do make mistakes and we do fault.
The love that man offers can never be as perfect, as good, as unconditional as God's. If we can love each other the way they should be loved, we won't need God. i think we cannot really depend on man's love but we can certainly depend on God's!!!
As it was recorded 2000 years ago,
"Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends" -John 15:13
"For God so loved the world that he gave His one and only Son, that WHOEVER believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him." -John 3:16-17
"Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous man, though for a good man someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." -Rom 5:7-8
The ultimate expression of love is that of Jesus, God's only son, dying on the cross for your sins and my sins, even when we did not accept him.
It was the ultimate expression of love 2000 years ago and still is today and will ever be.
so...Dont talk about love too soon when you can't afford to.
